Wrong body vs right body with wrong parts.

mylittlebaneling:

There seem to be two main camps when it comes to transgendered people who experience significant physical dysphoria and want to change their body with hormones and surgery and whatnot. 

The first camp is those who view their body as someone else’s, or just simply the wrong body. They take the view that their body is not their own, and feel a great level of detachment from their body, viewing it as not being a part of them.  That’s an OK position to take.

The second is those who view their body as theirs, and do feel connected to it, like it’s the body that they should have. They just feel it is somehow defective. Like “This is my body, but it has breasts, which is a flaw in terms of how I want my body to me.”
That’s an OK position to take too.

What’s not an OK position is to be the kind of person who gets really angry as someone describing themselves as one, and insists that everyone is the one they are. I have seen a lot of trans-people try and tell other trans-people that they need to stop denying it’s their body, because it totally is their body it just has some flaws. I’ve also seen trans-people tell other trans-people that their body is not their fucking body and that they are in the wrong body.

WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? Everyone experiences dysphoria in a different way. It is perfectly OK for people to view the bodies they live in in either of those ways, or another way entirely, and you are a fucking douche if you say otherwise. Don’t tell people how to view the bodies they live in, they can view them however they want. 

Stop telling people how to experience dysphoria, it’s ignorant and bigoted. 

I went over this with the psychologist writing my second surgery letter today. It’s not the wrong body - it’s MY body, it just needs some work done!